41 [M4F] #Connecticut — Married dad looking for chemistry, conversation and a little mutual bad judgment

41, married, dad, western CT.

Might as well lead with all the things people usually reveal in paragraph six.

I’m married. Marriage isn’t easy. I’m not planning yours and I’m not looking for somebody to plan mine. If you’re married too, I’d actually prefer that we both understand that an affair doesn’t automatically mean either person is secretly auditioning a replacement spouse.

Sometimes things are complicated.

I’d rather acknowledge that than pretend otherwise.
I’m also not just looking to exchange naked pictures until one of us gets bored.

Naked pictures? Absolutely.

But ideally there are actual sentences involved too.
I’m around mostly Monday through Friday, roughly 7 AM–8 PM. My weekends belong partly to real life, although I’m certainly not entering witness protection every Friday night.

Personality-wise, I’m probably disappointingly normal.

Black, suburban dad energy. Professional career. Side gig. Hobbies. Sarcasm. Dad jokes that I absolutely will laugh at before you do. Think less mysterious stranger in a hotel bar and more guy who can flirt with you while also reminding you that your oil-change light has been on for three weeks.

Sexy.

I know.

What I want is reciprocity (yes…. I use multisyllabic words on a regular basis).

I don’t want to be the only person saying good morning. I don’t want to conduct daily interviews about how your day went. I don’t want to constantly invent topics because silence apparently means I’m supposed to perform another trick.

Talk to me.

Send the random thought.

Tell me your coworker is an idiot.

Tell me something good happened.

Tell me you missed me.

Send the inappropriate picture in the middle of a completely normal Tuesday.

I’m very good with all of the above.

I’m also the kind of person who notices when someone’s behavior changes. I’ll ask if you’re okay. I’ll ask if I did something. If something isn’t sitting right with me, I’ll tell you.

I’d rather have an awkward five-minute conversation than three days of weird energy.

Who am I looking for?

Woman, 30+, cis, and otherwise I’m pretty open.

Race isn’t important. Body type isn’t particularly important either, although if God saw fit to give you hips, I’m certainly not going to question His process.

Mostly I need attraction, humor, conversation and consistency.

I’m not promising to blow up either of our lives.

I’m looking for the person who makes the boring parts of mine a lot more interesting.

If that’s what you’re looking for too, say hi.