Next time I go to my partners I am not coming back.

So yeah, I do have plans to move in with my partner, which has been a complete drag.

My mom has never allowed me to have a bank account or any form of income because she wants to live on my disability benefits.

My mom has refused to get professional treatment for bedbugs, which has been something that has put a damper on my relationship with this man as well, and I'll get to that in a little bit.

But she got denied SSI benefits and when I told her that this next visit we will make it official she told me to hold back a bit because of the fact that the government isn't letting her have SSI.

So my boyfriend lives 4 hours away. I live in northern Indiana, and he lives in West Milwaukee. He is a better influence on me than my mom has ever been, and I've been ready to make this move in, but this is something I have to do behind her back.

I am 27 years old, by the way, and throughout my life, my mom has denied me my rights to be an adult or have any source of independence.

I did question her on what she would do if I just made it official behind her back, and she said that my sister would get involved. But I know for a fact they legally can't take me back home without my consent, but if she does get involved, there might be a whole scene going on, I'm sure.

And as for the whole bedbug thing, my boyfriend is OCD. My mom has managed the bedbugs well enough they are small.

But I really want to explain because when I talk about this, people think I'm sitting naked in his car. I am not naked in his car, he brings me clothing and requires me to get naked and change clothes. I have made it very clear to him that once I get naked, I will have to jump in as soon as possible where I get changed in his car. And yes he is very serious I have to do this outside and he can not have my clothing be a risk of touching his car.

So this is one of those it will be our 4th time next time and I've done it in the daytime once because he can not handle rural driving at night so we are looking for next time to be like evening. He doesn't want to go back and forth and cause ware to his car and I don't want to risk being outside naked just so I can seek out a relationship with someone, so it is like yes I need to do this now than later to take less risk.