AITA for wanting to try to make it work?

I AM NOT ASKING FOR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!! THIS IS AN AITA POST. (Since mods seem to think that I am asking for advice)

AITA:
I have been in a relationship with my partner going on 8 years, and the other day, I finally honestly admitted to him that I wasn’t feeling satisfied in our relationship and I felt like I wasn’t romantically in love with him any more. I also admitted that I’ve had these feelings for a couple years now and have been too scared to tell him, even after he’s asked me a few times in the past if I was falling out of love with him. After that conversation, I knew I had hurt him, and the pain of that felt immense. We had decided that we were gonna break up. I felt guilty and downright terrified of a future without him. The next day, I texted him and said that I didn’t know if the relationship or my issues were fixable, but I was willing to try to make it work. We talked that night and came to the conclusion that we would try to make it work, day by day, and if I was truly out of love with him, then we would go our separate ways.

I truly love this man from the bottom of my heart. We’ve had some amazing times together. I just don’t feel romantically attracted to him anymore, and I don’t know if there’s any way to reclaim those feelings. I feel uncertain that this will work and I feel like I might be grasping on to the relationship out of both guilt and comfort.

For clarity, It’s really a combination of things that have put me out of love with him. I don’t feel stimulated by the relationship. I don’t feel like we’re moving forward, it feels stagnant. Our sex life is nonexistent. I have some resentment towards some of his living habits. I don’t feel like we do much of anything together anymore like we used to. I think that these are things that might be able to be fixed if we work on it, but I’m uncertain. Now that everything is out in the open, I at least want to try.

A lot of people have said that I should stop wasting his time, but I don’t think trying to see if this relationship is salvageable is a waste of time, especially since we both agreed to try. That’s where I need to know AITA, for wanting to see if we can fix this???

Posted Sep 2, 2026, 12:29 PM UTC

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