Husband and I are stuffing after having a child

TW assault mentioned

Husband (28 m) and I (30 f) have recently been arguing a lot. Since we’ve had a child we are struggling to connect. We do not have either grandparent here to help alleviate stress or babysit often.
We have a very rambunctious 2 year old who still isn’t sleeping through the night and the past week has caused us to sleep in separate rooms every night.
Our intimacy has been having issues the past few months with me feeling overwhelmed from chores, parenthood, and chronic pains from an old car accident. Since the child was born there’s been three occasions of my husband being completely asleep and attempting intimate acts. This is added another layer since I have been previously assaulted by an ex when I slept. My husband isn’t cognitive during this time but I’m really struggling not to feel assaulted. I feel forced to say yes to sex even when I’m not interested for feel of it happening again.
My husband has been trying to be very understanding, and feels awful. He hasn’t been initiating or asking as much but when he does I’m now starting to resent him.
I don’t really know what to do. I love him so much. I just don’t know how to move past this