can you not talk to someone and still like them ?

hi,

my boyfriend is an avoidant. but I wanna breakup cause it’s been weeks and I feel so alone in this relationship.
the thing is that I was an avoidant until I got with him.
well I changed when he asked me to talk to him more. I thought we were gonna be a real relationship

problem is, he can go for four days without talking to me. he stops talking when he has problems. it’s been months since he hasn’t organized to see each other. I’m the only one who does.

I saw his family but nothing changed.
and now when I ask for what he asked for in the beginning he says he can’t promise anything to me cause he won’t change.
he says : he doesn’t miss anyone, he doesn’t love anyone.
I became that ‘anyone’ too I fear

I decided to change and not him…?

so my question is, can you really love someone and not really care about seing them for days ?