How to pull a twink + other questions and yap
I am 18 (in a Western country - aus), in my final year of hs and am wondering what attributes I could show to increase my chances of successfully attaining a hookup with a twink in my year group (18) who I find hot, but have a couple other questions at the end.
For context:
I am:
5'11 with an athletic build (75kg/166lbs lean)
good at basketball
hit the gym weekly and I am quite conventionally attractive (or I would hope!) with a slightly feminine wasian (mums white and dads asian) look (girls hit on me/give me looks somewhat often)
I have only dated/had sex with girls before which I have enjoyed
I am decently outgoing and funny/don't take myself too serious although im not actually an idiot (my marks are quite good)
100% male friend group, moderately popular in general
Sorry for the yap you are about to read here about myself idk I am lowkey venting I guess since I have never written or spoken these thoughts π. I am bi - like 60% straight and 40% gay and closeted, no straight man or woman has ever suspected me for being gay/bi and it is almost impossible to tell. However, the few twinks (who I think are hot) I have interacted with I definitely feel can deduce that I am a closeted bi/gay based on how I act as I sort of freeze up around them and loose 50% of my brains due to nerves. I have experienced varying levels of male attraction throughout my life since 3rd grade roughly π, but from 16 - 18 I have sort of connected with that side of myself more. I have gradually come to accept myself as a bi individual although I very rarely have felt internalised homophobia despite being almost exclusively in more masculine (and unfortunately kind of homophobic) spaces due to my sporting/gym interests (This is possibly because I am not fully gay and am still highly attracted to girls so I don't really feel like an outsider which many gays report).
note: I was gonna put a pic of myself w. eyes and a bit of the face blacked out but no images allowed apparently
He is:
6'0/6'0.5 π¬ (might be a problem given twinks are typically shorter than their partners if I am correct?)
Noticeably feminine, definitely not a femboy or anything but would probably wear a bit of eyeliner every now and then outside of school.
I have heard he has dated guys outside of the school but I have no idea who they are or what they look like
100% female friend group
Into Ariana like 99% of twinks it seems π
A pretty typical white 18yo twink
I interact with him rarely mostly because I am closeted and no straight guy ever really interacts with him, if they do it's just about girls he knows. If I was to talk/be nice to him, it would imply to everyone that I am gay, (sounds extreme but it is a pretty homophobic/judgemental school due to racial and upper-class homogeny here) which I do not want people knowing. I just wanna hookup/maybe date to test the waters without anybody knowing.
My questions are basically:
How/if I should I ask him out?
Who/what are twinks typically into and looking for in a guy? - I have recently become vaguely familiar with some gay 'archetype' terminology like jock/bear/twunk and that sort of stuff if that matters
How can I be more attractive to him/other twinks specifically?
Do twinks typically date (or are attracted to) other twinks? - I have heard completely conflicting things with some saying they rarely date each other and some saying they almost exclusively date each other.
Is a DL like me typically considered desirable by gays including twinks?
What % of twinks are in relationships with/prefer other twinks roughly if you could guess?
Would love responses from absolutely anyone, but if anyone is under 21 and a twink your opinion would GREATLY be appreciated so plz leave an answer if you can?
Thanks if you read through all of my yap btw π
Posted Sep 5, 2026, 3:54 PM UTC