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How to pull a twink + other questions and yap

I am 18 (in a Western country - aus), in my final year of hs and am wondering what attributes I could show to increase my chances of successfully attaining a hookup with a twink in my year group (18) who I find hot, but have a couple other questions at the end.

For context:

I am:

5'11 with an athletic build (75kg/166lbs lean)

good at basketball

hit the gym weekly and I am quite conventionally attractive (or I would hope!) with a slightly feminine wasian (mums white and dads asian) look (girls hit on me/give me looks somewhat often)

I have only dated/had sex with girls before which I have enjoyed

I am decently outgoing and funny/don't take myself too serious although im not actually an idiot (my marks are quite good)

100% male friend group, moderately popular in general

Sorry for the yap you are about to read here about myself idk I am lowkey venting I guess since I have never written or spoken these thoughts 😭. I am bi - like 60% straight and 40% gay and closeted, no straight man or woman has ever suspected me for being gay/bi and it is almost impossible to tell. However, the few twinks (who I think are hot) I have interacted with I definitely feel can deduce that I am a closeted bi/gay based on how I act as I sort of freeze up around them and loose 50% of my brains due to nerves. I have experienced varying levels of male attraction throughout my life since 3rd grade roughly 😭, but from 16 - 18 I have sort of connected with that side of myself more. I have gradually come to accept myself as a bi individual although I very rarely have felt internalised homophobia despite being almost exclusively in more masculine (and unfortunately kind of homophobic) spaces due to my sporting/gym interests (This is possibly because I am not fully gay and am still highly attracted to girls so I don't really feel like an outsider which many gays report).

note: I was gonna put a pic of myself w. eyes and a bit of the face blacked out but no images allowed apparently

He is:

6'0/6'0.5 😬 (might be a problem given twinks are typically shorter than their partners if I am correct?)

Noticeably feminine, definitely not a femboy or anything but would probably wear a bit of eyeliner every now and then outside of school.

I have heard he has dated guys outside of the school but I have no idea who they are or what they look like

100% female friend group

Into Ariana like 99% of twinks it seems πŸ’€

A pretty typical white 18yo twink

I interact with him rarely mostly because I am closeted and no straight guy ever really interacts with him, if they do it's just about girls he knows. If I was to talk/be nice to him, it would imply to everyone that I am gay, (sounds extreme but it is a pretty homophobic/judgemental school due to racial and upper-class homogeny here) which I do not want people knowing. I just wanna hookup/maybe date to test the waters without anybody knowing.

My questions are basically:

How/if I should I ask him out?

Who/what are twinks typically into and looking for in a guy? - I have recently become vaguely familiar with some gay 'archetype' terminology like jock/bear/twunk and that sort of stuff if that matters

How can I be more attractive to him/other twinks specifically?

Do twinks typically date (or are attracted to) other twinks? - I have heard completely conflicting things with some saying they rarely date each other and some saying they almost exclusively date each other.

Is a DL like me typically considered desirable by gays including twinks?

What % of twinks are in relationships with/prefer other twinks roughly if you could guess?

Would love responses from absolutely anyone, but if anyone is under 21 and a twink your opinion would GREATLY be appreciated so plz leave an answer if you can?

Thanks if you read through all of my yap btw 😭

Posted Sep 5, 2026, 3:54 PM UTC

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