I am conflicted of what to say to a guy that I am talking to
TLDR: The guy I am talking to right now has a disgusting following list and I want to tell him that I am uncomfortable, and would like to stop talking altogether. How do I tell him nicely?
Help..I have been talking to this guy for almost two weeks now. I thought it would be a one-time conversation because he bought my books off of Facebook marketplace. He wanted to pick up the books, so we exchanged numbers so that it would be easier for us to communicate. From that day on, we just kept talking with one another, and unfinished conversations will always be discussed the next day. 3 days in, I decided to look him up on any available social media and I found his instagram and threads account, but nothing was interesting so I didnt really pay any mind to it.
I love baking, especially chocolate chip cookies and I told him that on thursday. He said he wanted some, so I plan a saturday lunch meeting with him just so I can get to know him more and give him the cookies. Yesterday, he asked for my instagram account and I give him my username. He followed me shortly after, but he did not use the account that I found earlier, instead he used his 2nd account, the ones that only close friends are allowed to follow. I didnt mind at first but then, I check his followings and girl….
I will say, I am chubby and I am pretty busty. His followings, are FULL with accounts that promotes OF/tight fitting clothes fetish (specifically around the hips and bust). A swinging red flag for me. I felt uncomfortable with this information that I just learned, and then I remembered that I have planned a lunch meeting with him…fml.
So, just now at 4:15pm, I went to meet him and we had lunch like normal. I have told him previously that I hate people who cancel plans at the last minute, and I didnt want to be a hypocrite, and decided to just meet him. I talked to him as I would with a FRIEND, did not try to flirt or anything, given how turned off I got when I looked at his following. I decided to cut the meeting short and we part ways after an hour.
Thing is, he was really nice just now and was as his ‘texting’ self, but again, his followings really bothered me 😭 I do not condone ghosting and will never. How do I tell him nicely that I am starting to feel uncomfortable with him and would like for us to just stop talking…#helpmeplease
Posted Sep 5, 2026, 4:02 PM UTC