2 switches experimenting

My wife and I are newly into the bdsm scene (both switches), since January. And I was wondering what it would look like if we had a findom for both of us.

I have been doing research and before I bring it to her I like to be able to answer questions... There is a lot of stuff on a sub having solo activities and the like with thier dom. Not much info on if 2 switches "co-submitted".

I have been looking through people's pages her and reading the rules they set and all that. Been doing my research on how to find an "ethical findom" and the like.

And in my research I find myself drawn to findom. But without my wife involved it doesn't feel right for me.

So I was planning to bring it up to her and would like some.

Sorry if this isn't allowed here, delete if it is.

And sorry if my thoughts are all over the place for this, I feel a bit nervous engaging with this...

If you'd like to give more specific advice I don't.mind answer questions in this chat or in my dms... Thank you for reading and any input!