How do you guys find the one here in reddit

Male for reference, and my IRL network is pretty limited.

I’ve used matching apps for a while, but eventually realized they probably aren’t going to work for me. I was very selective, but not necessarily based on looks. My main criteria were sect, level of religious practice, hijab, and marital status. I’m open to divorcees and widows, but preferably without children.

The problem I’m having here is that you basically don’t know anything about a potential match, not even the basics. Women rarely post much about themselves, and a lot of profiles are private, so there’s very little to go on.

On the apps, at least, my search was more focused. I would only reach out to women who already met my basic criteria. Here, it feels like I’m going in completely blind, with a pretty high chance of eventually finding out that the person doesn’t meet some of the fundamentals I’m looking for.

I’m curious if anyone has actually had success meeting someone this way and can share some insight. Otherwise, I’m not sure this is really for me.