I think my brother is potentially my sister

Hey everyone. In the last 6 months I came to terms with being a trans woman, therefore I have personal experience with what it is like to be transgender. I also know that sometimes being trans can linked to genetics and since I’m trans that could make it more likely people in my family are transgender.

The problem is…my brother SA’ed me when I was a kid…we recently started talking again, and started our relationship again, I wanted to tell him that because of his SA my trans hints were made into “oh that just happened because I was SA’ed” and I wish I knew I was trans sooner” - he apologized immensely, he feels incredibly guilty about what happened between us.

So I guess my question is….should I sent him the Gender Dysphoria Bible…tell him to read it to “help learn about my trans experiences” and see if I can crack his egg if their is an egg to be cracked? (Because I can’t just say he is trans! I’m not 100% sure if I’m right, and that is his job to figure out!)

I don’t know if I can live with myself knowing the person that SA’ed is trans as well. Something about that makes my brain hurt. But something about not helping someone who is potentially not aware who they are yet makes me feel like a shit trans person. And I don’t want to be unsure my whole life if my brother is actually my sister. What are your thoughts…? 😔

The reasons I suspect my brother is trans in case anyone is wondering:

1 - My brother said he “thought he was bi before realizing he was straight…you know who else thinks get confused they are bi or gay and later learn they are straight…well technically lesbian but still I meant before they know repressed trans woman.

This is relatable to my experience as well btw I had questions about being bi as well before coming to terms with being a lesbian trans woman

2. He watched MLP as a kid all the time and called himself a proud brony a boy who watches my little pony - which doesn’t relate to my personal experience but I have a trans woman friend who LOVED MLP as a kid.

3. He had a bit thing for trans people which relates to my experience in fact I remember being jealous he had a trans girlfriend and wishing I had one LOL - He had a romantic relationship with a trans woman, and had a FWB relationship with another one a few years later. He seemed to have a heavy interest in trans woman, something a lot of a repressed trans woman tend to do.

4. He sent a text saying this -

“I always thought I was born wrong, you know? Like maybe I was some ailen disguised as a human, and I never knew I wasn't one.”

But to be fair he was referring to how guilty he was for his actions against me but still like I mean, if that isn’t the most trans sentence I’ve heard in my life lol.

Anyway…so yeah…maybe yall can tell me I’m overthinking things and that these hints mean nothing as well. I just don’t know. I feel like shit either way. I feel bad not helping someone who might be trans find their true selfs with that who they are meant to be, and I also be left wondering as well, which isn’t fun. I also feel like I couldn’t live with myself if I found out the person who SA’ed me was trans themselves. I don’t know if I’d be able to handle that. I don’t know if I can handle questioning it either. Help me. I’m struggling.