[UPDATE 1] 19F — I think a regular customer might be stalking me? I genuinely don't know what to do
Okay wow 😭 I genuinely did NOT expect my original post to get this much attention. I've been reading through all the comments and messages, and honestly, some of you are freaking me out more than the situation itself.
A few people have commented asking if I'm okay since it's been a little while, so I figured I'd give you guys an update.
So, I worked today, and unfortunately, he showed up again. He ordered coffee, sat down, and mostly just watched me. He tried making a little small talk with me, but I didn't really engage much. He stayed until shortly before I finished, and I could see him outside afterward.
Then later, I went to a store to get some groceries and I ran into him there too. 😭 I honestly didn't even recognize him at first because I was just focused on getting my groceries. Then he said hi and was like, “Didn't expect to see you here,” and started talking to me like it was completely normal.
Like... I don't know. Maybe under any other circumstances I wouldn't think much of that, but after everything that's happened, it really freaked me out.
He's also still texting and calling me a LOT. I haven't answered any of his calls today, but he's been sending the same kind of messages as before — asking why I'm not answering, where I am, why I'm ignoring him, if I'm okay, etc. And there have been some jealous/possessive comments again too.
My call log is basically just a wall of missed calls from him at this point 😭
And then today I found a bunch of notes in my mailbox.
There were about five of them, and they're all pretty short. I'm not going to post every single one because I don't want this update to be insanely long, but some of them were honestly really unsettling.
The weirdest part is that I don't actually know for sure who left them. I obviously have my suspicions based on everything that's been happening, but I don't want to accuse someone of something I can't prove.
I also still haven't been able to talk to my coworker or manager like I planned because my coworker was sick today and my manager wasn't around. So that's something I'm going to have to deal with when they're both available.
I've been reading SO many of your comments, and I really appreciate everyone who's been giving me actual advice and checking in on me. A lot of you have told me to document everything, stop responding, tell people around me, and take this more seriously.
And honestly... I'm listening.
When I originally made the post, I genuinely wasn't sure if I was overthinking everything. Seeing so many people react to it has made me realize that maybe I wasn't taking some of this as seriously as I should have.
So for everyone who's been asking:
I'm okay right now. ❤️ I'm obviously still uncomfortable and I'm definitely going to be more careful from now on, but I'm okay.
Thank you to everyone who's been checking in on me. Seriously. I didn't expect strangers on Reddit to care this much, and it's honestly really sweet.
I'll update again if anything significant happens.
Link to my first post :
Posted Sep 8, 2026, 4:56 PM UTC