My bf didn’t delete his ex off his phone.

When I first found out my bf still had his ex gf’s messages, photos and such, I made it very clear how much of an issue that was for me. He apologized and reassured me he isn’t the type of person who looks back to read old messages or look at old pictures. His life had been so busy to even sit down and sort through it all. He would kiss my forehead and promise me I’m all he ever wants. This was 6 months ago.

I have repeatedly brought this topic up since then for months and the response has been the same. An apology, an explanation of who he is, and reassurance. I expressed it would reassure me a lot better if he simply just deleted everything. He agreed and promised he would go through it all and remove it.

Last weekend, I had to ask if he did it already. He sighed and said he hadn’t had the time to do it but instantly took out his phone and started removing things and he was done in less than 4 minutes. I had my head turned the whole time. It made me feel stupid asking my bf repeatedly for months to remove an ex girlfriend that took less than a couple of minutes.

Last night, however, I asked if he can show me is she truly was removed from his contact list. He looked offended and said I saw he had deleted everything but he’s willing to show me. She was still there … and again he reassured me he wanted nothing to do with her and he thought he had removed her. He finally did delete it but I was incredibly upset.

It hurts because i truly see a future with him but I cant accept the fact that my boundaries weren’t heard for months. Just because I understand why he didn’t listen to me, doesn’t mean I should accept it and I’m so lost in this relationship because of it. My head can’t wrap around the fact that my bf is amazing but doesn’t listen to me.