this is in s3 ep8 where richard, emily, rory and lorelai take a road trip to visit yale because richard wants to show them around and attend an alumni dinner.

through the tour richard suddenly shows rory the dean of admissions office and tells her on the spot that she has a meeting set up with him at that exact moment.

lorelai, emily and richard get into a huge fight about this. i’m curious to know what everyone thinks about this situation. i think that the way richard went about to make this happen was pretty shitty but i understand why he did it the way he did. lorelai would’ve never let said trip/meeting happen if she knew the real intentions behind richard taking rory to yale. richard’s way of going around lorelai was not cool but i totally understand where he was coming from. being set on just one school and closing off on another option that’s just as good just because her own dad went to that school/it wasn’t the one school they decided on for years - are not really actual reasons that rory shouldn’t be applying to the university. lorelai is thinking emotionally rather than practically about rory’s future here. rory needed to apply to other colleges because you can’t just pick one, apply to one and hope you get into just the one.

i don’t like the way richard went about making it happen, but i understand and agree with his decision to show rory what another option (backup or main) could look like.

another thought, he shouldn’t have lied to rory about it. he should’ve prepared her and given her enough time to prepare for the interview and get her thoughts together for it. he could’ve simply asked that rory be the one to tell lorelai that this was an opportunity that rory wanted to just look at and check out. hearing it from rory would’ve probably helped lorelai understand the process better and rory could’ve then accepted the meeting. if not for lorelai, richard should’ve at least confided in rory.

s3 ep8 - richard brings rory to yale