What tools helped you quiet ROCD spikes about your partner right before getting married or starting a family?

Hi everyone, I am struggling more than ever with ROCD and I think it has intensified knowing that marriage and the possibility of starting a family are in the cards.

I’m just wondering if there is anyone out there who experienced something similar and was able to mitigate it with tools or resources. If you navigated this, what specific books, ERP exercises, or mindset shifts helped you untangle the ROCD from genuine pre-commitment anxiety?

Thank you!