Why Findom? Pt. 3 The Finale

I believe this miniseries has come to its natural conclusion. There are like 3 different drafts of this post, but I'm tired of this grandpa! (iykyk) If you want to read parts 1 and 2, feel free to look below.

Part 1

Part 2

While I will continue my findom journey with a learning and growth mindset, I think I finally found out why findom appeals to me so god damn much. This question nagged at me for a while. Even before I truly got my foot in the door. It felt like I couldn’t quite figure it out in its totality. I kept finding pieces of it as I lurked. Like a puzzle you can’t solve, it bothered me.

I talked about control in my first post, power exchange in the second, and it finally hit me. Findom is the intersection of everything I love about being dominant. It reaches into the realm of TPE like free use. It facilitates a power exchange that fuels my lust for control like CNC. It feeds my sadistic tendencies like pain play. And with humility, I admit, it’s also taught me about myself. I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that sexual domination means more to me to gender, and it’s allowed me to freely explore my sexuality.

I also spent a lot of time thinking about the kinks I heavily practice as a dom: CNC, intox, orgasm control, TPE, and they all make me feel almost omnipotent. Whether it’s willingly given or outright manipulation, brainwashing, or force, having my subs by their throats thrills the hell out of me. There’s something even more exciting when I reach into the realm of finances. It's such a taboo in so many spaces. Guiding someone to reckon with irreversible decisions like handing over their hard earned money… That continues to bring out a more devious side of me. I feel like I’m refining my craft overall through findom.

The best d/s dynamics I’ve had are when subs completely give in to me. Let me destroy them. Utterly and brutally. Until their brains have left the building and their body and soul belong to me. Until reason has gone out the window too, and their begging gets pitiful and frantic. And so far, findom has brought me the types of subs that want this too. Lastly, the extreme nature of this kink encourages structure, which I love.

Money may be the vehicle of control in findom, but these dynamics are so much more. I think I chose this kink because of everything it could be and the intersectionality of it. The different dynamics to explore and subs to captivate. The opportunity to mix in aspects of other edgeplay. It feels like I’ve finally found that one thing that scratches that itch.