whole house lighting plan in an older home, what actually worked across six rooms

Done a few of these now, so here's my grain of salt. The order that holds up:
pick a finish family for the public rooms first, foyer and dining lead.
hallway and stairwell match.
kitchen pendants can break from the finish family if they coordinate with the cabinet hardware instead.
bedrooms get personal and that's fine.
outdoor is its own conversation.

The mistake people make is buying room by room without a plan and realising at month six that nothing matches anything.

for anyone who's done a full house, did you plan up front, did it come together by accident, what would you redo??