Broke NC for a Medical Emergency, It Confirmed NC Was Right

I'm not someone who limits contact with my family members lightly or who doesn't consider all sides of the situation.

Recently I broke very LC/NC out of sympathy for a family member who is in the hospital.

I don't regret breaking NC, as it showed me I have more sympathy than I thought I was capable of. But after two visits I'm back to NC. They're getting better. In fact I think the family member is getting an early release from the hospital because he's driving the staff insane.

But after two conversations wherein this person only talked about themselves, took zero accountability for their deteriorating health (a lot of his problems are preventable), talked about how the medical staff was incompetent and complained about everything and everyone without so much as asking me anything about my life, I saw them for the deranged abuser they truly are.

NC is the right call for many people. I don't take the choice lightly, but with the time and distance I saw how awful this person really was to simply be around.

You can't get better if you keep drinking the poison.