Nasty 🫀 Vs 🧠 affair

Why is it that love doesn't work with two smart people? There must be a fool between two love birds. If it's not you l, it's your partner. But even if it's you, it's too late to be saved now.

After the heartbreak you start using your brain a little bit more. Because last time you fell too hard and all logic and all logic went out the window. So this time you're much more cautious and aware. So you ignore your heart and use your head.

This is when you realise how hard it is for you to be the fool in the relationship. Because now you see it all without filters. The codependency signs,red flags,trauma bonding, attachment issues and how we really are just kids in big bodies mimicking adult lives. And this makes your quest for finding a soulmate harder because ignorance really is bliss. What you didn't know didn't hurt you,but now that you know,you can't watch that blow hit your face.

Which leads me to my question.

Why is it hard for smart people to find love?

It's hard to get someone who thinks like you in the first place and you become too afraid to wanna date them coz you don't want to spoil the vibe you have.

Most of y'all will say it's probably overthinking...but I beg to differ. Your first instinct is always right. ALWAYS trust your gut,it has a reason to make you feel that way even without proper proof/evidence. When you doubt it,that's where the overthinking starts because your brain is denying what your gut already knows.

TL:DR: Why is it difficult for high IQ individuals to fall in love and find their people in the dating pool in this day and age?