20 weeks pregnant, husband never tries to spend time with me

Like the title says.. I’m a 32F just about 20 weeks pregnant with our second baby. I’m a sahm and my husband 33M works from home (very long hours) in a separate space from the house. I have been feeling forgotten about for a very long time, we’ve had this conversation many times over the course of years even before we had our first baby. I just never feel first or prioritized.

Our time spent together is eating dinner after he puts our 2 year old to bed. His dad has been sick recently so he’s been making it a priority over the last couple of months to spend a night or two a week with him, and he plays Xbox with his friends once a week. Other than that he works and watches our child briefly in the morning and has her in the evening after work.

I just feel like I exist in the background as a wife though we had our 10 year anniversary a couple of months ago and we canceled our beach trip so we could make his dads surprise birthday party. We had dinner another night but never rescheduled the beach. We haven’t gone out together since then but he does his other weekly things with his dad and friends.

I tell him how I feel then we have the same conversation and he says he’ll make more of an effort but it always boils down to him being forgetful and blaming his adhd. Like he doesn’t realize it’s been months since we left the house together without our baby to go on a date.

Today he made a rude comment that I’m demanding I ignore that his dad is sick so he’ll give me attention instead… which is cruel because I have never said rno to himt wanting to go over to his dads and always will keep our daughter during his ‘shift’ with her so he can get the most out of the time and I encourage him to.

I just also want to feel like we get to do something together. I don’t know what to say anymore ):
Just pretty pregnant and feeling alone in my marriage. What can I do initiate change?