Does it make sense to move back to Asia?

Dating & Relationships

I’m a guy in my mid 30s, half Asian (Japanese) and half European, originally from a Latin American country.
I spent roughly the last five years living and working in Asia, mainly in places like Singapore, Hong Kong, Japan and South Korea. Recently I was laid off and ended up finding a good opportunity in Europe, which also brought me closer to my family.
Career wise, I think being in Europe makes a lot of sense. Work life balance is generally better, and depending on the Asian country, compensation isn’t necessarily better despite the longer hours and more intense work culture. Singapore and Hong Kong can be exceptions, but places like Japan can be pretty demanding without necessarily compensating you accordingly.
The thing I didn’t expect to matter this much is dating.
After several years in Asia, I realized that my dating preferences are heavily skewed toward Asian women. I’m obviously not saying I can’t be attracted to anyone else, but in practice the percentage of women I’m genuinely interested in dating feels significantly smaller in Europe.
I never really struggled with dating in Asia. If anything, I felt like I had a much larger pool of people I was attracted to and compatible with. Since moving back West, I’ve realized how much that affected my overall happiness and how I imagined my future.
So now I feel like I’m facing a weird tradeoff.
Staying in Europe means being much closer to my family, potentially making more money, having a better work life balance and probably having a more comfortable career long term.
Going back to Asia would mean being far away from my family again and potentially accepting a worse work culture, depending on the country. But socially and romantically, I feel like I would have significantly more options and a better chance of meeting someone I actually want to build a life with.
At this point in my mid 30s, finding a long term partner and eventually starting a family is becoming increasingly important to me, so I don’t think dating is something I can just treat as a minor factor when deciding where to live.
Has anyone here made or seriously considered a major geographic move partly because your dating prospects or preferences were much better somewhere else?
Did it turn out to be worth giving up proximity to family, career opportunities or quality of life for it? Or do you think choosing where to live based partly on dating is giving it too much weight?

Posted Sep 11, 2026, 3:32 PM UTC

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