Hi guys and ( girl lurkers), i think i was emotionally neglected as a kid or something. Growing up my family never talked at dinners or around the tv. It was mostly just silence. When i went to my first girlfriends house in high school and her whole family was sitting watching tv. They were TALKING to each other I was so baffled. I thought to myself oh this is how it’s supposed to be. 

Now I’m 26 and moved across the country when I was 20. I met a lot of cool people at my first job I had here and we used to hang out a lot. Most of us have since quit and life went on for most of us and don’t really see them much anymore. I have a few really good friends who I do my hobby’s with (dirt bikes and mtb). outside of that I don’t have any friends for like dinner parties or more casual activities. 

I want to be more social but i don’t know how. I don’t really know how to connect with people or be interested in things that i maybe don’t know the most about. I struggle to contribute to conversations that dont involve dirt bikes. I usually just don’t talk unless someone directly asks me a question. 

Finally I’d really like to get to be more social to go on more dates/ meet women. Idk kinda comparing myself to my roommate with this. I’m lucky to go on one date/ meet a new person once a month. My roommate is constantly telling me about how he has all these dates lined up and i genuinely think it’s just because he’s more of a social person than me. 

Cheese tortellini Alfredo sauce and Italian sausage 

I struggle to be social and I hate it.