31 [F4M] #DFW #Texas - Looking for one genuine emotional/romantic connection

I’m not looking for someone to save me or talk me into leaving my husband, and I’m not trying to turn my entire life upside down. I’m also not looking for random hookups or trying to juggle ten guys at once.

I basically just want one person I actually click with. Someone I can talk to really frequently, flirt with, watch movies with, send stupid reels to, maybe go out with eventually, be affectionate with, and have actual chemistry with.

So yeah. A boyfriend. While married. Very normal, I know. 😂

A little about me: I’m 31, living east of Dallas, TX, 5’10” (I do generally like guys taller than me), sarcastic, affectionate, musical, an ambivert, big on communication, and I have a LOT of opinions about justice and people being shitty to other people. I’m an INFJ and Enneagram 6w5 if that means anything to you. It probably explains a lot.

I’m into rock music, singing, songwriting, psychology, deep conversations, and dark romantic/gothic stuff. Twilight, Phantom of the Opera, Wuthering Heights, etc. I’m also in school for psychology, so there’s a very real chance I’ll start psychoanalyzing you at some point. 😂 I’m pretty upfront about what I think I’m seeing though, and I’m also completely capable of being wrong.

I like guys who are funny, emotionally aware, affectionate, confident without being controlling, and can actually hold a conversation. A little intensity is good. I want somebody with actual opinions and a personality who isn’t afraid to disagree with me, but can handle being challenged.

And frankly, I’m tired of men giving me crumbs while simultaneously making it VERY obvious they’re attracted to me. If you like me, I want to fucking know you like me. I don’t want to sit around decoding whether the one reel you sent me today means you remembered I exist. 😂 I want effort. I want enthusiasm. I want somebody who actually wants to talk to me and makes that obvious.

Basically, I want somebody who’s a little fucking obsessed with me.

Not “track my location and lose your mind if I don’t answer for an hour” obsessed. Please don’t be insane. 😂 I mean the good kind. You think I’m hot, you genuinely like me as a person, you’re excited when my name pops up on your phone, you actually want my attention, and I don’t constantly feel like I’m begging somebody to give a shit.

I’m not interested in being one of six women you rotate through whenever you’re bored. I’m looking for ONE person and I’d prefer someone who wants the same.

One thing I want to be REALLY upfront about: I’m open to eventually meeting in person if we actually build trust and I feel comfortable.

And meeting me is not a promise of sex. Not right away, not later, not ever necessarily. Maybe it happens if I trust you, feel safe with you, and the chemistry is there. Maybe it doesn’t. I genuinely don’t know. If you’re going to be frustrated by that or spend the whole time assuming I’ll eventually change my mind, we are definitely not a match.

Please do not message me if you’re one of those guys who tries to guilt women into sex. I promise you’re not as subtle as you think you are.

I’m not looking for somebody who needs me to rearrange my whole life around them. I want something that actually feels real, but I’m also realistic about the situation I’m in.

Physical attraction matters obviously, but chemistry matters more. I tend to go for masculine guys, good hair, expressive eyes, tattoos aren’t a necessity, but are a plus, and musicians unfortunately have a very unfair advantage with me. 😂

I’m fine trading pictures pretty early because I do not understand talking to someone for three weeks and THEN discovering there’s absolutely zero attraction.

If you message me, actually tell me your age, where you’re from, and something about yourself. More than “hey,” please. Tell me your favorite band, your favorite movie, or your most embarrassing fictional crush. That’ll get my attention way faster anyway.