Not sure if my mom is actually manipulative or not

Hi so my mom and I got into an argument today, which isn't really unusual for us, but she said something so diabolical today and I just wanted to ask if other people have had this experience/is it normal??? She was basically yelling at me for being slow about college apps and I told her I would ask my counselor abt any questions she had, and thats when she blew up at me telling me I should know this stuff myself and that I am not ready to go to college if this is how I act. She has said this kind of thing a lot so it didn't really affect me, but then she got pissed that I was being unresponsive to her provocation and asked me what she had done so wrong for me to hate her?? Btw in this whole conversation I had never once said I disliked her or hated her. Anyways I basically reiterated that and she started going on about how she has never raped me or beat me up so why is it that I hate her so much??? and i seriously thought that was just such a weird thing to say, so I wanted to ask if anyone has had a similar experience and what I should do next time she tries to start an argument. I really am at my wits end tbh