Would you stay with someone that gave you an STD?

I have conflicting feelings over my whole experience. My friends are all telling me to dump the guy, but I’m not really sure if I want to do that, however, I don’t know if it’s because I’ve finally maybe decided I like him (?). I’ve done a lot of research within this last week of how one can get infected with chlamydia, how long it takes for it to appear on tests, and what sort of contact is required.

Ok so, this summer I was having my fun back home with one guy (partner 1) and my current home with another (partner 2), both are very casual and were ongoing until my positive test. Going back a little, at the beginning of summer I met this guy (partner 2) and we were very casual, and I knew it wasn’t anything serious, I didn’t want anything serious and he was just coming off a long term relationship, so we were each others lovers (I say lovers because we would go on nice dates, cuddle, bake together, say I miss you, etc), anyways, we were casually seeing each other before I went home for a month. During this month I saw partner 1 multiple times and after that month was over I came back to my current home where he sent me his std test results unannounced and out of no where, showing me they were negative, 9 days after we last had sex. Anyways I’m back at home and I see partner 2 the first day I’m back and the day after that, he then leaves in a trip for a week. During this time, a couple days later, I start to feel horribly sick, like body chills, fever, sensitivity, and sore throat… I’m trying my best to heal up. I think I’m feeling better, so a well passed and I invite partner 2 over were we have sex, and all this shanaza. I wake up the next day feeling horrible and lay in bed most of it then tell him the next day I’m sick and sorry if you catch anything. I thought at this point it was the flue or strep because of the way my throat was feeling so on tuesday I went to the doctors to get tested for all the above and decided to get std testing too since I saw multiple partners this summer and for my overall health. All my throat swabs pointed negative to strep, the flu, and Covid… however a whole day after that I got a positive result back for vaginal chlamydia.

God, I can’t even explain how I felt, my body was sick and so weak, but mentally I was feeling so poor too, and especially after this. So I reached out to both my partners and told them about my test result, partner 1 was supportive and said it happens and knew about my other partner this summer (I knew about his) also probably helps that he had a negative result a week after last having sex with me. Partner 2 on the other hand was pretty cold and had a whole turn around on the way he was communicating with me, short answers and replies. I ask him a couple of questions and he tells me he thought he had symptoms before his trip, got tested and they were negative (however, idk when in the last month they had intercourse, because a positive test will show up 1-2 weeks after infection) and proceeded to tell me he was with 2 other girls this summer, one being during the month I was away. I’m now waiting for his test results because he said he would tell me, but other than that, silence.

It sucks because, well obviously my body reacted poorly to the infection that I deadass got a cold (after I took antibiotics for 2 days my sore throat completely disappeared), but also I’m pretty sure partner 2 gave me it, just based off the timelines and partners. But anyways, I was kinda in the middle ground and ever since coming back I realized that maybe it would be nice to continue what we have and all this stuff blah blah blah. But idk I feel so disrespected by him that he didn’t tell me he was having symptoms the day of I first came back and still decided to have sex with me, or even disclose that he was being unsafe and most likely told the girls the same thing he told me when I asked if he had a condom and when the last time he got tested was, the first time we had sex (he just got out of a long term relationship so…. Paints the picture). I understand I’m also at fault for participating in unprotected sex but I was def a little more careful than him and had enough respect to disclose all the details I had to him, when I had to pull out the fact he was with other girls and when and all this stuff. I just don’t feel respected by him and also uncared for, because why would you put someone in this position that you care for… also lovebombing is brutal (def added to all of it).

I really don’t know if he was just love bombing me the whole time (alongside with other girls) or did he perhaps care for even a little, at least as a person. My question is, why act in a particular way if you don’t mean it?

But ya, let me know what you think and what I should do. I’m def planning on having a talk with him and telling him I feel disrespected and I just kinda want to be mean to him (I’m hurt) even though some oppose.