My bff said she would choose her boyfriend over us and it’s killing me

Basically the title, but I will provide context.

(I know it’s not original as I know a lot of people can’t stand their bff’s SO but I need to talk about this)

Laura (22F) and I (21F) live in a pretty small island and have been best friends since middle school. The inseparable/always together type of friends. We had other friends around us of course but we knew that no matter what the only important thing was that her and I stayed friends. We supported each other through a lot of our experiences, good or bad.

Laura met her boyfriend Luke (21M) in high school. Her first boyfriend. I was happy for her and didn’t thought anything of Luke at first. He was just my bff’s boyfriend.

The more they got close the more he started to hang around with me and our friends (his friends started to hang around with our group too).
Since our group was composed of mostly girls and his guys only, they all tried to hit on us.
Every girl got the creeps at some point so they all stopped seeing them and the guys are currently blocked.

Not only does Luke defend his « bros » until the end no matter what but he has done some very douchey stuff himself:

At some point his best friend tried to hit on me too. We went on a couple dates and he insisted that we kissed at the end of said dates (ps: It was my first real experience in the « dating pool »). Well, Luke found out because during a conversation with Laura, him, and I, he very seriously implied that I was a toxic slut for kissing a guy that wasn’t my boyfriend.
Laura laughed it off and after a moment so did I because I didn’t know how else to react. I hate conflict and didn’t want to cause any drama. I was also ashamed and thought he might be right.

-> In retrospect I don’t know if it was intentional on his part but I once mentionned to him and Laura during a conversation we were having about our fears that I worried about being seen as a whore or a lower value woman for some reason I can’t remember.>

Luke’s bff took advantage endlessly of my insecurities and struggled to take my « no’s » as complete sentences. He even flat out told me that he was planning to « steal my virginity » in exactly 9 months and after a very bad experience with him, when I felt used and devalued, I ended our « courtship » and blocked him. Well, Luke told me that I kinda wanted everything that has happened because it is not the man’s job to know that he gives the creeps to a girl. (Also he tried to put us together with his bff many times even after I repeatedly told him to stop mentionning his friend to me and joke to me about him).

He has reacted like that to every situations of mine he ever knew about. And not just mine.

One of our friend Leah was in a relationship with one of his best friends: the alleged sex offender, before we knew what we knew about him. He didn’t respect her « no’s » (thank god he didn’t graped her) also and she eventually talked about it to Luke. You can guess in advance his answer.

Side note: I’m saying « alleged » because many girls reported the guy’s behavior to our principal but since we were still minors and in high school she always tried to deal with things the « amicable » way so there was no legal proceedings.

Luke countlessly mocked our religions (both Laura’s and mine), our beliefs and our faith. He insulted more than once Laura’s mother. He said to one of our girlfriends that she was a slut too. Matter of fact, Leah gets called a whore repeatedly by Luke.
He gets angry and provokes fights with Laura for any and everything.

In the beginning of their relationship, his bros wanted to surprise him for his birthday so during an outing, while he has buying something we all went to buy a tiara and a ribbon for him. They didn’t have the « birthday King » one so his friends bought the « Birthday princess » for him as a joke.

Well he acted like everything was fine when he came back and we surprised him and once we were alone, all three (Laura, him, me) he got angry at Laura saying that it was an insult that she participated and he felt ashamed of having a ribbon made for a girl.

One of his friends tried to hit on Laura once, she rejected him and Luke got angry at Laura.
Everytime something happens (and I know about it), he gets angry at her. When she tells him a secret, people find out because he told them, they get angry about the secret => he blames Laura => she blames herself.

Also, she has changed so much since she was with him. In good and bad.

She swears he has helped her change and grow and I can’t speak about that since I don’t know but I sure can tell there has been some interesting changes.

Firstly, she seems to think more like him regarding women and misogynistic views. She described herself as a feminist since forever but sometimes she says things that I clearly heard Luke says over the past.
Secondly, we used to joke and have fun with each other. But one time I told her a joke. Something she would find funny usually. And she stared dead in my eyes and told me « you’re really dumb actually ».
Since it only happened once I still don’t know what to think about it.
The more she is with him, the more she looks like a bully. She has become more confident and I like that for her but she has on the other hand attitudes that remind me of high school bullies.

Once, she asked me if Leah hated Luke and her relationship with him so much because maybe she was jealous that her relationship with Luke was working out and Leah’s with the alleged sex offender didn’t.

When we were younger, Laura and I both wanted to wait for marriage.
Luke said that a guy can never wait for marriage. That does not exist.
And even if Laura told him in the beginning that she had planned to wait, judging by what she told us he started doing with her (taking things next level each time) he does not plan to wait but she doesn’t see it like that. She explained that « it’s her body » and we all agree on that.

However I am kinda concerned that she decided to change her mind about this boundary because of him and not because she wanted it for herself, if you get what I mean.

None of our friends like Luke. When they get to know him better they all wonder what is his problem and why is Laura with him.
None of her family members like him, even people that aren’t in our inner circle to begin with.
Hell, even Laura’s THERAPIST doesn’t like him.
We have expressed our dislike for him and she only grows fonder of him. She thinks he is some misjudged guy.

We got together with our girlfriends at the beach months ago and when all of us reminisced the creepy experiences we had with Luke’s friends, Laura proudly expressed how it never happened to her with Luke and how it will never happen with him.
Almost as if she was gloating that bad things happened to us but not her. Maybe I’m looking too much into it tho.

All of our girlfriends had bad experiences with Luke and his friends at this point but she still, in our groupchat, talks about Luke, posts photos about their dates, talks about good things he has done for her (most of these are bare minimum stuff such as calling her when she is sick), etc. And she plans on continuing because she wants us to « get used to him ».

She pays train tickects almost every week to go see him at his appartment and he only did the same for her once.

A couple months ago Luke sent an audio of him in our groupchat through Laura’s phone and we all got jokingly upset that a guy snooped in our discussion.

Then a friend joked about how Luke needed to know that Laura liked us more and Laura sent back one audio.

Stating very seriously but with a light tone that if she had to choose between us (her best friends) and Luke, she’d choose Luke.

My heart sank in my chest.

Our friend asked her, still joking, if she was saying that because he was present with her.

Laura sent back another audio the next day while he wasn’t with her. A longer audio to explain that she’d choose Luke over us, if given the choice.

None of us replied to these. I didn’t know what to say.

I felt conflicted because he is her boyfriend, she loves him and I shouldn’t feel so bad that she prefers him.

But he is an ass. To her, to us, to me her best friend. When we confront her about his behaviors she doesn’t condemn him, she even defends him sometimes.

And now she has told us, she has told me, that she’d choose him.

We never spoke about this again. Leah and our other friend think that I’m justified in my anger and should maybe talk to Laura. But I can’t bring myself to do so. I don’t know what I’ll do if she casually tells me that she meant every word and that I have no reason to feel this way.

Now that I’ve talked about this, I feel extremely sad again. I feel like crying. Writing all of these made me realize that I had bottled up these emotions.

Edit: she has made it clear in the past that she won’t be able to break up with him on her own so at this point I wish he would break up with her himself.
Also, I’m starting to lowkey resent her. What be with such a problematic guy who hurts your friends ?

Edit 2: reposted because it has been removed because of an error. Sorry.