Need insights in my relationship!!

I'm [21F] and my bf [24 M] . We met online on reddit comment sections, became friends and then went into relationship. It's been 3 months, we are pretty compatible and highly understanding individuals.

We stay connected with video calls and voice calls and his care on daily basis, love and the way he includes me and i include him in both of our future plans.

The love is real, the care is real, the connection is real but the emotional needs and intensities aren't.

I believe in astrology to certain extent, and I loved his Taurus logical and practical views but inside that there comes the scorpios emotional intensity. I agree that i felt the relationship isnt exciting after the 3rd month cuz we are so sure and feel understood and cared all the ways.

But, ive noticed he's creating a emotional turbulence nearly every weekend cuz he's afraid what if we become bored and separate.

I'm not a normal gf who gets triggered with contrasting opinions etc, so he's trying hard to trigger and finnally hitting the core values I want in relationship and thats making me spiral for few mins, and in mid way he sometimes forgetting that prank a.d then after a week say "hey that was a prank i forgot to end it, you didn't fight w me, why? I'm upset"

Then I revealed I cried about it. Then he felt so bad, cried and said " don't ever cry, if you wanna cry, cry infront of me, but don't ever suffer alone, shout at me, hurt me but don't overthinking alone." And he also revealed, ppl dont unlove, they just get bored so he said I'll create a conflict every month and we do romance, after marriage.

I'm a Sagittarius, I want peace in my life, I'm planning for research focused job, my job will be hectic, I want to come home and feel relaxed not to fight( tired of crying my whole 21yrs of life)..He want emotions, I want logical fight, I felt so bad that I raised my voicee at him( for me it's abuse ) but I agree i too felt bored having peace but i didn't hate it, it's a part of relationship.

Next comes parenting, Im antinatalist,he said he love to adopt then we agreed to adopt. No reproduction. We talked abt it before even commiting for dating. Then I found he has few fantasies of taking care of pregnant wife, only to find he don't inherently want to adopt but made that decision cuz he said he felt rather than having biological kid with worst partner, having adopted kids with understanding partner is best. He never askeed me will you change ur kid ever, but he said he will prioritize kids, he wants to be the best dad, he wants to keep them happy. I said i would raise our son as best partner and best human, he replied best husband can't be best dad.

My priority is my partner. And I expect the same, he replied, you and our kids will be given same priority then. 💔 Just cuz I asked he will give me some priority.

I respect ppl even in suboptimal level. I said WHATEVER the thing is we both should decided and get back to them, it's not I'll say no, you will say yes. He replied " if my daughter asks for icecream, if I feel she will be happy, I'll say yes and then will convince you". Triggered. The audacity to think he could convince me tells me that, my opinions have no importance. And I'm unsteady with my decisions.

Other instance, he said if my daughter is like appa I don't wanna go to school tmrw what will you do.

I said it's her life, ill first talk to her to understand why she doesn't want to, then if she just want a relax,lazy day, i would definitely agree and ask her if she wanna hang out with me, or with her friends if not she will stay home. It depends on WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO. I'll do that for her.

He replied, i would say no you should go. Then, I'll take her to school as usual, just when she gonna get out of the car , I'll say "baby girl, we are not going to school we gonna enjoy and explore today"

First thing, she would assume that dad is best mom is normal, secondly i wanna let her love her life in her own way (morally correct way ) .

And the difference is emotion is also so visible here.

I welcome all your opinions, insights whatever and haters, no issues, you can unleash your anger, irritation whatever here. Thank you so much to all in advance 🙏

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