My Mom is such a manipulator

So i am an 11 yrs girl my mom 33 or 34 idk my dad 38 .lets call him Mike . I know i am not supposed to be on this app but i really need some advice . Im from Cameroon ( Central Africa ) and i was born there i moved here America (California) when i was 7 yrs and lived with my grandmother and my mom had no choice. This is going to be all over the place but bear with me . My parents met in school during the mid or early 2000s and i think they started dating in the late 2000s . Mike had a child ( girl ) when he was 18 shes prob 20 or 18 yrs now . My mom and Mike moved in together in a “ studio “ in 2009 or 2010. Mike went to this school called ENAM ( National School of Administration and Magistracy ) starting in 2007 and graduated in 2017. My mom met a guy idk when ;let’s call him Patrick . He looks like he is in his late 40s . At the time Patrick and my mom met he was alr married and prob alr had three kids (2 boys and 1 girl) . When i was born on the 19th of January , Patrick wasn’t there Mike was . Almost my whole life Patrick was known as my “real father” which i never fee-led like he was since i know him . But know lets just go straight to the point .

On may 25 i didn’t go to school because it was memorial day so i was pretty much bored the entire day . My mom was at home with me and my grandmother. At 9 pm i was getting to go to sleep. While my mom was showering , I go into her room and find her phone on her bed so i took it for no reason and started going through her WhatsApp messages ; thats when i see at that time was my moms “friend” ( Mike) phone number which i remembered him from when i was little. I had my phone in my pocket so i took a screenshot of his number and saved it . So then i go back in my bedroom and started texting him saying “ Hello this is Lea”. I waited for his response for two hours until he finally replied. I dont remember what he said but we had a pretty good convo . We talked SO much . Idk how this started but basically he told me that he was my “real” father. I was REALLY happy when he told that because I just never liked Patrick as my real father. Then I asked him that if he was my real father then why is my last name “ Azegue “ (Patricks last name) and then he was like “ Fck ur mom f*ucking changed ur last name “ and i really felt the stress he was feeling because i wouldn’t want my child to have another mans last name . Then he was like “ No sweetie ur real name is Lea Eyenga” and never in my life did i know my mom changed my last name. Then after that I asked my Aunt Marie that i wasn’t supposed to talk to her because she talked bad stuff about my mom and grandma . I asked her if Mike was my real father because he asked my to ask her then she was why would i ask that and the i was like just answer the question and she was like what did he say to you and i said he said he was my real father and she was like he’s lying and that i should block him. So i did and for a month i didn’t talk to him . Then my mind was just telling me to unblock him so i did and I texted him and then he responded and he asked me what happened to me that he couldn’t reach me and i lied to him that my WhatsApp app wasn’t working 😭 . Then one day on a Tuesday in July my grandma sat me down and told me that my aunt Marie has been telling everyone that i was talking with her and Mike 🤦🏾‍♀️. My grandma started telling me every “bad” stuff Mike did to me and my mom while we were living together and i was just there listing to her asking myself how she knew this even if she wasn’t in Cameroon during that time. Then when we were done, a few hours later my aunt Danielle the person who told my granny what my aunt Marie has been saying calls me and she asked me pretty much the same question my granny asked me and tells me the same thing. (I am not going to tell u guys what they told me because it is going to be long but if u want to ask feel free)

Then two hours later I text Mike asking him saying “ Can you tell me the real truth about what you did to Mom because I think you're lying “ then he tells me “ Léa, you think I'm talking to you just to lie to you?" I say “I don't know, Aunt Danielle told me the same thing as Grandma told me.” His response “Okay, if you think I'm a liar, that's fine. The same thing, meaning I kicked you out of my house, then I made a scene and all the other things they put into your head." Then I say yes that's what my aunt Danielle and my granny told me. Then he says "My baby, you think I'm a liar? Just ask your mother for the truth and ask her if I know how to lie?. You know, they'll try to demonize me so that what they tell you seems true." My response "But she told me that you want to destroy me. That you also beat up mom, and that you are a manipulator." His response "You and I talk every day, can you tell me how I want to destroy you? I just want to show you the truth about what they've been telling you about me. Yes, because I'm telling you the truth, so I'm a manipulator. Aunt Daniel wanted me to help her financially, but since I didn't, I'm the bad guy. My baby, what man doesn't scold his wife or smack her to make her see reason? Does that mean I don't love her?" Then I say a little bit . Then he says " You know, I've always loved your mother, and you even more." I say "And also that you are not my father And that you're not going to let me live with you because you already have a wife and children.” The reason why my aunt said that is because i said that i wanted to go back to Cameroon. The reason why is because i don’t really feel good in America i want to be living with my family not 400 km away. I know that America has good opportunities but sometimes not for everyone in my opinion and i really thought about this so i wouldn’t just wake up and say this randomly. And then he basically also said other stuff like between u and I who is the Manipulator and that what do i know him as and i said my father but yh pretty much my granny and aunty i dont think they know that my mom is the bad guy in this situation but I feel like this night i would show my granny about the messages but yh . And then like and hours later I apologized for threatening him of a lier which i never apologized to some one like but yh.

Now this is one month later where I was two days into school and i have my computer which i need for Google Classroom . Then i go i to google classroom and they are not letting me in then when i tried logging into my school acc they said i need my moms parental password and idk that because she put the parental google guardian on it then i show her it and she was like i put the parental thing that now i don’t remember the password and i was trying to explain to her that it wasn’t me but she just kept insulting me and i started crying and then she was like idk if u cry idk if u get bullied and school and that even made me cry more cus out of all the stuff u could’ve said u said that one🤦🏾‍♀️ then i went upstairs to my granny and i was like explaining to her that she put the parental thing on my computer she just don’t remember and shes just blaming it on me like she always does which I’m tired of that shit like if don’t remember why put it on someone else 🤦🏾‍♀️. And then thats when i told her i want to go back to Cameroon thats the second time i say that. And she was like i dont mind u saying this u could go back whenever u want but where r u gonna stay and i didnt want to say Mike but i think eventually i did then we just had the conversation and it went smooth

Now finally again something happened but i send this message to my dad cus i knew he was going to understand me but this is what i send him. “Good evening Dad, I know you are sleeping but I wanted to tell you something. I don’t know if I’m a bad person or if it’s Mom and Grandma who don't understand me, but anyway, the plumbers finished redos-ing our bathroom and I thought they were supposed to come back today. So that's when Grandma came to tell me that they weren't coming today, so I said okay. Then a few minutes later, I started removing what they had left on the floor because, like I said, Grandma told me they weren't coming back. I started downstairs and then I went upstairs to remove the other one. Grandma heard me and asked what I was doing, and I told her I was removing what they left. That's when she came into the hallway, and I don't remember exactly what she said, but I think she asked me what spilled on what the plumbers left. I said that water spilled on it, and she told me, 'That means your water wasn't turned off,' and I told her that I did turn my water off. She said, 'How can water spill? We all know that water can't spill by itself if it's not turned off.' But I stayed calm for the sake of my health. Afterward, she told me to put it back, so I put it back, and then I went downstairs to watch TV and eat. An hour later, she came downstairs to throw something away, and I think she saw the plumbers' thing that was on the floor in the trash. She came over and I think she asked me if I had thrown the thing away, and I said yes. She told me, 'I told you not to throw away what the plumbers put on the floor,' and I told her that I had removed that before I removed the other one upstairs, but she didn't want to listen to me, so I stayed calm once again. I don't know how we got to the point of me wanting to go back to Cameroon, but anyway, we ended up on that topic. Then Grandma handed me the phone since she was on the phone with Mom. Then Mom asked me if I wanted to go back to Cameroon and I said yes, and she asked me who I would want to go live with, and I didn't want to say you. And I think she also said that she didn't care if I 'died' in Cameroon. After that, she also said she is going to take me out of my Catholic school and put me in a public school. Well, that's the whole story.” This is what i sent him and he responded to me saying “ Good evening Léa, I just read your message and it's really a shame that Mom and Grandma don't understand you; it's certainly due to a lack of communication .” Then we also talked about other stuff but this mainly what has been happening in my life but i really just tryna take it in and be like its gonna be ok .

Thank You for reading this i know it’s long but thank you ❤️.