Can two bottoms actually make a relationship work long-term?
I’m curious to hear from other Black gay men, especially anyone who’s actually been in this situation.
Have any of y’all dated someone where you were both primarily bottoms? Did sexual compatibility eventually become an issue, or were you able to find a way that worked for both of you?
I’m asking because I’m realizing that emotional/romantic compatibility and sexual compatibility are two different things. You can genuinely like somebody and enjoy being with them, but if both people ultimately want the same role in the bedroom, I wonder if one person eventually ends up compromising more than they actually want to.
For those who’ve experienced it: did it work? Did one of you become more vers, did you find other ways to be satisfied, or did it eventually become a dealbreaker?
Posted Sep 14, 2026, 7:55 PM UTC