Ethical sugardaddying

I have had a few relationships off the site. I think it is hard to be a good, "ethical" SD.

I try to. I put them on allowance usually by 2nd date, a weekly one, with only the vague stipulation that they put an effort to see me.

I find locking specific amounts behind certain acts or visits like taking advantage of my financial power: these girls are usually much less financially stable, so I don't want to drive them to a corner that they are forced to do something they don't want.

So I don't force them. And I see what happens.

The results are usually horrendous. They start flaking, making BS excuses, don't do anything intimate after many dates, etc. etc..

Talk is cheap, and they sure do a lot of it; their behavior doesn't match up with what they say.

So it is hard to maintain being a good, "ethical" SD. You will get taken advantage of, when you give the girl the benefit of the doubt, in many, I would say the majority of the cases.

But I still keep on doing it, because there is the rare gem where it surprisingly works. The sad thing is, you have to lose tons of cash doing multiple dates until you figure out which girl actually does what she says she believes in. But if you are a SD with cash and time, it is doable, but just very resource intensive.

But when you do find the girl who actually appreciates a reciprocal relationship and wants to be there, and you started the relationship in such a gentle way, with zero pressure for intimacy and slowly build up to it over many dates, I dunno. It makes me remember when I was young. I guess that is what I actually wanted, my "Rosebud".