Ashley wants to be victim so baddddd

I tried SO hard to keep an open mind when judging Ashley. Like okay, she was only 23 and made a mistake (not that I think that’s a valid excuse, but let’s assume it is).
But omg, she’s insufferable!! The ENTIRE show is her trying to highlight how patient she was and how much she had to put up with.
Like GIRL??? You are NOT the victim here. What exactly did you expect? You broke up a family and now we’re supposed to feel bad about how much YOU had to put up with??
Correct me if I’m wrong, but even TJ did the absolute BARE minimum of acknowledging that what he did was wrong (wow, groundbreaking), while Ashley just kept talking about everything she had to endure.
It was actually SO frustrating to watch, especially because I feel like Ashtin & Alix are VERY kind to her given the situation.