How to become sensual and feel yourself more

Years ago I had a long 'hoe phase', but I go exhausted by men only wanting me for my body and reducing me to a sexual object. I wanted to be seen for my actual personality and intellect. So, I completely shut down my sexuality. Now I would like to get that back, be more sensual mostly and with that also sexual. But anytime I try to be sensual and more feminine it feels so weird and uncomfortable. Objectively I have a good body, everyone always comments on it and I do know that and I do also see it, i just don't feel it, and I would like to feel it and then also show that on the outside.
I have never felt very feminine or sensual but would love to. I adore women with this kind of energy and free spirit.
What are some things I could do.
Has anyone else successfully bridged this gap? How do you own your sexuality, feel hot for yourself, and still command enough respect that people see the whole you?