Questions for those who have been in a similar situation as me:

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I 28yo female, in a long distance relationship with my Turkish boyfriend 25yo for 9 months now. We have travelled together twice.

The issue here is our sexual chemistry. The first time I learned we doesn't like tongue kissing that much, and sex was ok. I was on my period then, so def didn't help our case, but after a few days I got sick, so we didn't have sex anymore.

The second time we met after 6 months, he was very eager to have sex and so we had a quickie. The other times I noticed it would be quite fast, and barely any pleriminary. Kissing briefly, touching places for a min, and right away intercourse. For me, that's not ideal. Well, after a few days I questioned why he doesn't go down there, after all I do, and happy to do so.

He said it's because he doesn't like it because of an ex's smell. Ig he got some trauma, but I got offended by it. He never tried to go there with me, and sex feels rushed and kiss lacking passion. I even cried about it to him.

I wonder if me pressuring and crying about it is making him lose interest or perhaps it's his smoking habit (7 times a day) and affecting his libido. He even said doesn't want sex everyday. I mean... we don't see each other everyday and have been dating less than a year. Should we be having sex all the time?

Other than that, he's amazing! Very affectionate, sweet, I love him a lot! We talk about the future together, but our sex life is bothering me.

Any thoughts what it could be? Or experiences on a relationship with a start like this but getting better with time?