The four Pillar of findom

My hope is understanding how findom works can help us get away from it.

Women have these powers but it is supercharged in findom. Men tend to cede these powers especially in findom.

Sexual power. Victimhood

Finsub.

Shame. Chivalry

Sexual power. Women are the prize. We want them more than they want us especially when it comes to sex.

Porn is the lest interactive but fills an urge at first. Then there is interaction in findom which brings proximity with pictures, vids, cam, and dialogue. Less likely a cash meet or session.

Then there is the fantasy and possibility of a physical partner. Seems to be the ultimate endgame even it you know it will probably never happen.

Women use these practiced sexual powers through visual poses and dialogue to great effect.

Victimhood. Women are frequent victims of men and we like to protect them and feel empathy for them. Men tend to carry a collective guilt for the things women go through which we try to make right. In this case finsub try to make up. Most of the time we are not the perpetrators or even support those in any way.

Shame. Well lots of shame thrown around. Paypig, gooner, jerk off, incel, virgin, loser, pussy free, ruin, not a real man and simp. All to make you weak and question your worth.

Chivalry. At first we think this is what men do, true but women are the beneficiaries of chivalry. Here is where men provide, protect and even sacrifice. Women often use chivalry to get what they want from us. Just another tool in the findomme’s arsenal.

We hold women up on a pedestal they frequently have not earned. Many of us are very susceptible to findom or related. My intention is to help us stop doing that. Say NO to findom.