Getting matches then instantly unmatched
Hey! I’m trying to get back out there again. I consistently get matches with other women and will begin to have conversations with them, until I mention I’m trans. They instantly unmatch me without saying anything or even respectfully just saying they’re not interested, even when I genuinely say it’s okay if they’re not. I put trans in my bio after this and still got matches, albeit less, but the same thing still seems to happen. Most of these women claim to be a part of the community or queer in general, so I don’t understand why I get treated this way. I’m in a mostly progressive state/city. I find myself to be pretty normal honestly - whatever that means. I’m not saying anything crazy other than having a general get-to-know-you conversation and then eventually bringing it up.
Any advice on better places to look or how I can circumvent this would be appreciated. It honestly hurts my feelings quite a bit.
Me: 29, transwoman
Posted Sep 17, 2026, 3:18 AM UTC · locked