I feel so unwanted by my boyfriend because of finasteride.

My boyfriend (M29) has been on fin even before I met him. Maybe since 4-5 years back. We started dating 2 years ago.

Our relationship and sex life were great at the start. Regular sex and intimacy. Around 2-3 times a week.

But i have always initiated. Never him once. I gave him the benefit of doubt as he told me I was more sexually experienced than him. I am not. I only had 1 ex boyfriend before, i do not sleep around.

He told me some past trauma around lack of intimacy in his previous relationship due to his ex gf depression and LDR and I believed him.

Nonetheless I was happy to initiate all the time due to the excitement of a new relationship. He reciprocated but never once, did I receive any signs of him reaching out for me first. Our intimacy was great and I thought I had found the one.

In the recent year or so, we settled down into normalcy of life and the initial spark is gone. Nothing wrong with that, i love a comfortable relationship and hes my safe space. However, our intimacy went downhill when he just stop lasting in bed and stopped prioritising my needs.

I just got so sad and resentful. Why am I initiating first all the time? Why does he not even wn reach out to me first at all? Even when i initiate, he doesnt last and just ignores my needs.

I consider myself quite attractive and I notice how men look at me, in bars/ clubs. Especially when im out on girls nights or with friends, men do approach me all the time. So i was so confused on why ny boyfriend does not approach me, even with a little bit of lust.

I get really jealous and sad when my friends tell me their sex life and wonder why doesnt my bf even have a bit of libido. I slowly stopped initiating and it became once a month or the longest break was 2.5 months.

Recently, the straw that broke my back was. We were out partying and we sat at the back of the club. Really dark and intimate space. I asked him for a kiss and he said he was really tired and didnt want to perform.

I cried in the club feeling so unwanted. How do i even approach this conversation with my bf? He will not stop taking fin.

We still have a healthy rs of affection in other areas such as cuddling, hand holding and light kisses before we leave for work etc. But i still feel so unloved and hurt, by his actions. I also cant suggest him stopping fin?

What can i do? I know the answer is going to be a hard conversation but please tell me what to say.