What age were you when you found out you were bi?

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For example, I found out I was bi at 14. My parents, however, found out I was leaning that way since kindergarten. For reference, I was raised in a straight household (at the time) and didn’t think girls were an option. As I got older I realized one of my older cousins was gay, and I “really admired” a girl that apparently was her ex. So much that I got a matching haircut of her (pixie), before I was even told 1) she was gay and 2) her and my cousin dated.

Cut to 14, I’m shaking in my boots trying to tell my mom and dad that I was bi, and my mom hits me with the “yeah? Same” which… WHAT? And they reference my first day at kindergarten that I had said “there’s this girl, XX. She’s REALLY pretty.” So apparently my first kindergarten crush wasn’t a boy, even if I showed it more for him.

I started looking back on it recently, and… yeah. I’ve had a few girl crushes growing up. I guess I wrote it off as just thinking they were really cool, but when I got to high school I finally found the difference between “really cool” and “I would kiss her if she asked me to”.

So just out of curiosity, when did you find out?

Posted Sep 17, 2026, 3:30 AM UTC

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