What are your thoughts about speaking in tongues? (Pls read below)

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Hi everyone,

I grew up in a Chinese folk Buddhist family and decided to follow Jesus. I’ve been reading the Bible and studying different church traditions on my own for about 4 years now. I haven't fully committed publicly yet because of pushback from my parents, but Scripture is really important to me.

A few months ago, a friend invited me to a C3 church. The young adults group has been great, but the worship style is giving me pause. The pastor and people in the congregation frequently speak in what sounds like a non-human language (tongues), and there’s a massive focus on miraculous healing.

I was already skeptical, but recently someone prayed over me in tongues. Then this past Sunday, the sermon was specifically about using spiritual gifts to "edify" the church. Everyone around me seemed encouraged and hyped, but I left feeling really unsettled.

I ended up chatting with an Anglican friend, which pushed me to read 1 Corinthians 14 for myself. The text seems pretty clear:

- Paul literally says if someone prays in tongues without an interpreter, my mind gets nothing out of it and I can't even say "Amen" (vv. 14–17).

* Two or three at most, one at a time, and if there's no interpreter, keep silent in church (vv. 27–28). At my church, it’s dropped casually from the stage or spoken over people with zero translation.

* In Acts 2, tongues were actual foreign human languages that visitors understood, not repetitive non-human syllables.

When I brought this up with a friend at church, he brushed it off, saying Paul’s rules were just cultural for the Corinthian church (comparing it to women staying silent in vv. 34–35) and don't apply the same way now.

I know the people praying over me are sincere and mean well, so I don't want to start arguments or make them feel attacked. But coming from outside Christianity and relying on what the Bible actually says, I can't shake this off.

I want to hear your thoughts about this and what i should do, i really love the friends i made there but my mind definately doesnt align with there views on spiritual gifts.