Simple meal because we were tired and wanted to get  on with our movie night - harissa lamb kebabs and flatbreads with chips, salad and hummus. 

Throwaway account because this is gonna get soppy as hell!

This man is a gem and I feel so fortunate to be in a healthy relationship with such a kind, gentle and patient person. I looked at him yesterday, just singing along to a playlist in our kitchen and thought about how much he means to me… shed a little happy tear.

He has always treated me with so much love and respect. From the get go we had so much in common: rock climbing, drumming, music, art. And yet in personality we’re quite different which I like because we seem to complement each other and balance each other out. I never felt like I had to change myself or my interests… I could just be me and he loved me for it. 

We’ve been together for five years and I love spending time with him. We’ve travelled to so many different places together and I get excited thinking about our next adventures wherever they may be. 

He has always encouraged me in whatever studies, job or hobby I have ever had/done.

Other green flags:  
\- My female friends liked him straight away and they feel comfortable around him.  
\- A friend recently said that she hasn’t had many good examples of healthy relationships in her life but that we were one of them. 🥲  
\- He showed me with actions how much he respected the women in his life.  
\- He sent me a care package when we first started dating (pandemic) with loads of items he knew I would love… some from passing comments in conversation.  
\- He learned Spanish to communicate with a lot of my friend group.  
\- We don’t have a tonne of money but he actively looks for ways to share time and energy with others and be hospitable/generous.  
\- When I was unemployed he cared for me financially and emotionally without ever getting upset or frustrated about it…. Even though we have always split things until then (and now I get to treat him more with my new job’s salary)

I recently had an accident when climbing, which has meant I’m less mobile around the house. This man princess carried me into A&E when I couldn’t walk on my ankle and drove back and forth while I waited for hours to see a doctor, getting me supplies and snacks so I was comfortable. He already viewed stuff around the house as a joint responsibility, and did most of the cooking to be honest, but he really picked up the slack. No complaints whatsoever. When I said how sorry I was that I was a bit of a downer (I felt sad being stuck at home a lot) and not being able to do my share, he reassured me that I wasn’t a bad partner and showed me so much care.

I hate all the manosphere stuff because wdym I want an alpha male that is domineering? No I want my lovely, gentle husband who values me and treats me as his equal, thank you. 

I never ever get scared of him mistreating me or cheating, but I do get scared he’ll unexpectedly die because imma be a mess.

Anyway, sorry for the soppy rambles. Don’t settle for less ladies…. Even when dating feels like being in the trenches… friends have told me about their situationships recently and it sounds like Dante would have added another circle of hell if he had been alive today.

I love my husband so much it made me cry