thinking about reconnecting with someone after a long silence, not sure if i should

honestly, i've been sitting here staring at my phone debating whether to send a message. we used to talk pretty regularly, then life got busy and the gap just kept getting wider. now i keep wondering if reaching out would feel weird or if they'd even want to hear from me. i don't have any big reason or urgent thing to say, just the sense that i miss the connection a little. at the same time i'm overthinking how the message should start, what tone to use, and whether it's better to leave things as they are. has anyone else been in this spot and figured out a way to decide?