I think it's sad that some lesbian subreddits, which have mostly American lesbians, are hateful

I saw that they dislike bisexual women, go on about being gold star lesbians and are transphobic. I defend trans people and get a lot of abuse, so I’m pretty much saved off them now. In the UK, there is a lovely lesbian group called London Dykes who are open to anyone, and I know it’s hard in the UK, but knowing there are nice groups that aren’t hateful is uplifting