Bottom guy with top energy.

Not a question

This isn't a 'woe is me' post.

This is just an observation and wondering if anybody else has this.

I'm a British 6ft, bearded, tattooed, rugby built guy. I present quite masculine, non-camp, typical "lad" type banter. I'm 95% bottom as i used enjoy anal play far more than topping.

I would say a good 90% of people that approach me are also bottoms, this is in person, on apps, anywhere. Even if I have on my profile that I'm a bottom, i still get them trying to hook up saying that they want me to top them, and when I turn it back on them saying "Well i'm a bottom too, why don't you top me instead?" they always reply "But you look like a top."

I even have a jokey T-shirt that i wear out sometimes that says "I'm not a top, I just have a beard & tats" and yet they STILL say i must be vers.

Even my "total" top FWBs have started suggesting they'd like to try bottoming for the first time with me. I seemingly can't escape it. And its not like I have a "tops dick". I'm very average size and girth. More like husband dick material.

Anybody else had this problem? I'm sure there's also been people the other way around where they're mostly top but everyone assumes they're a bottom.

Posted Sep 23, 2026, 8:41 AM UTC

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