Girls - pro or pro max??

To the girls with smaller hands, did you get the pro or pro max? I’m seriously debating between the two. I have small hands, I’m 5’3 & my husband has way bigger hands than me and he ordered the 18 pro but wants to switch it for the pro max. I wanna match with him, but I can’t tell if my fingers are gonna get super sore all the time holding or using the phone. I’m hearing such mixed things!!

I know I asked the girls for advice, but men feel free to weigh in as well lol