No direction in life, need some advice
Hey guys, just wanted to vent and ask for some advice because I don’t know where to go/what to do. I am 27 and recently got laid off from my job. I have never been in a relationship and I am still a virgin. In my teens I never had sexual attraction to either gender, didn’t have a crush or anything. I just assumed I didn’t find “the one” or I didn’t know “my type” yada yada. By the time I got to college I just assumed I was asexual and didn’t think about it for a while, a few years. Only in the past year or so have I started to develop sexual attraction and getting turned on by men, so I guess I was gay the whole time? Idk who knows, very late bloomer or something. But that’s my issue now. I just lost my job, I still live at home with my parents and I’ve never been in a relationship or had a sexual encounter in my life. I am totally aimless. I know this is woe is me but honestly I need some advice from guys who have gone through this, maybe when they were younger than me now or older than me now. I feel like I need an escape, I need to upend my life in a way that gets me out of my comfort zone and put myself out there. Also away from my family (not that they wouldn’t be supportive I think, I just want to truly decoupled if that makes sense). Are there jobs that I could look into that lend itself to this? A location I should look into moving to or look for jobs in? Anything would be helpful. Thanks!
Also this might be weird but I have some more sexual questions I am not totally comfortable asking on a public forum, if anyone wants to DM me to discuss something more sexually explicit I would be very thankful (might be gross forewarning, maybe not though I am truly new to this)
Posted Sep 24, 2026, 8:23 PM UTC