33 [M4F] #Chicago/Online — Looking for a Filthy Girl Who Wants to Mess for Me

I'm 33 and looking for a submissive woman who likes the idea of slowly giving someone more control over one of the most private and embarrassing parts of her life.

I want to learn what humiliates you.

What makes you squirm. What makes you feel filthy. What rules would embarrass you to follow. What you'd secretly love being told to do if you trusted the person giving the order enough.

I'm affectionate, attentive, and caring normally, but I have a much darker side when someone genuinely wants it. I love the contrast between making you feel safe and cared for, then turning around and reminding you how degrading, embarrassing, and owned you enjoy feeling for me.

Bathroom control is a huge part of that. I love the psychological side of taking something you've controlled privately your entire life and gradually making it part of our D/s dynamic: rules, permission, obedience, consequences, humiliation, accidents, and increasingly surrendering that freedom to me.

The progression is what really gets me.

Maybe right now you've only fantasized about messing or wetting for someone. Maybe you've done it before but never had someone actually build rules and control around it. I want to learn what gets into your head and slowly make the dynamic deeper as trust grows.

I want someone who enjoys degradation but also wants affection underneath it. Someone I can laugh with, care about, talk to normally, and then have this absolutely disgusting shared side of our relationship that belongs to us.

I'm especially attracted to Black, Latina and Asian women. Chemistry, communication, and genuine enthusiasm matter much more to me than any particular body type.

I'm in Chicago, but online is completely fine if we click.

I am married, and my wife knows I'm here and supports me exploring this. The dynamic I'm looking for would be between you and me.

I'm into plenty beyond scat too, especially piss, ownership, humiliation, and control, but I'd rather discover what we're compatible with together than throw a giant kink list at you.

If you're already into messing/wetting, tell me what part of giving someone control over it excites you most.

If you've never actually done it but secretly want to, tell me what you've imagined someone making you do. ❤️