Minding my ex-partners stuff

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My ex-partner (30sF) and I (30sM) split about a year ago. As part of this, she chose to move back to our home city originally for six months - and given that time period, I chose to take care of the cat she would be taking in the split as well as the bulk of her stuff until she moved back to the city I live in.

We kept in contact for a long while, and after a period of time decided that it would be better to only reach out when needed, but we're on good terms. That six months has turned into a year and a half with her moving back early next year. During that time, is moved house and moved her stuff with me as I went.

We had kept things somewhat open to rekindling when we'd both individually worked on ourselves, with no expectations on one another.

Tonight, I called her to discuss logistics of when she would be moving back.

Initially, we started the conversation just catching up as we still get along very well and were joking and talking for half an hour as we have very good rapport. However, I proposed (something that she had originally mentioned) her house sitting for me while I took a small trip away; also to give her the opportunity to sort through her things, etc.

She then told me that she had actually started seeing someone seriously, and so now didn't think it would be appropriate to do so. I was shocked at first, and took a bit to compose myself, but despite being upset, I kept my cool and expressed that while I was hurt, I was happy for her. We kept talking for a few hours after, and we ended the call on good terms (as we do really care about each other).

While she apologised and said she should have told me sooner, I'm now kind of angry - she's still planning on moving back (no idea how that's going to work with her new relationship) but I feel like if this was a decision she's made then she should have told me about it at the time as I'm still holding onto her stuff and her cat (who I do love dearly). Like, I feel like I wasn't given enough information to decide if this was something I wanted to keep doing? And it seems strange to me; why talk to me for hours and not mention this early on or keep things very succinct?