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I have a group of really close best friends and now we're at that age where we're getting engaged, married and starting to have kids. One of the friends from our group is the only one still not engaged or married, and these past 3 years have been full of engagements, weddings, bachelorettes, bridal showers and now even baby showers. I was in the midst of browsing through yet another wedding registry when I started thinking about how much she's given all of us in gifts, time, commitment etc. for our special occasions and we haven't had a chance to do the same for her. The more I was thinking about it, the more it hit me just how much single people are expected to give with the unspoken expectation that it all balances out later but realistically that doesn't always happen. 

I know she's not the type to keep tabs but I also know how she sometimes feels singled out and discouraged and how she wishes she was in the same space as the rest of us with these milestones. We've had these really vulnerable conversations and we make it a point to make her feel appreciated and very little has changed within our friendship. I'd say we're really good as far as decentering men and not making marriage and motherhood our personality, but her feelings are still legitimate and valid. I decided to give her a gift that's a bit more expensive along with a note that said how grateful I was for all the love she pours into all of us and how lucky I am to call her my friend. 

I surprised her with the gift and she was so happy at first because she thought it was an early birthday present (her birthday is in November). I told her no, there was no special occasion because she was special enough to be celebrated as is. I gave her the note and told her how much I love and appreciate her. She kinda got quiet and then told me it was insensitive to write her off as if she was never gonna find love and get married and start a family. From my point of view, the gesture was supposed to say how loved she is and how she's enough as she is, and how she deserves to feel supported and celebrated regardless of her love life. From her point of view, I was basically saying she'll never find anyone so we might as well give up on the idea of her big relationship related milestones. 

We talked about it, I apologized and then she apologized for her overreaction (her words) but it's been a few days and she's definitely giving me the cold shoulder. She told the other girls it made her feel offended and like I was pitying her. It feels so awful that I might've fucked up this incredible friendship especially because the two of us are especially close. The only thing I want now is for things to go back to normal, she doesn't really hold grudges so hopefully we'll be able to truly work this out. 

I think a gift ruined my friendship