I prefer enmeshment trauma as a space to talk about emotional incest

I feel like forms of incest when they become extreme become their own problem. I think anyone suffering from enmeshment is probably suffering from emotional incest, but it isn’t helpful to separate incest from enmeshment if it isn’t a stand out or defining characteristic of the relationship.

In other words if I freak myself out over the fact that my Mom was my girlfriend at times in my life without physical contact, I’m going to lose the big picture.

I personally had to talk about incest first because my Mothers behavior before low and no contact was that of a women trying to seduce her son back into codependency with her.

Now that I have her against the ring with the rest of my family, I don’t need to give the incest portion so much power or weight it doesn’t need to have.

The problem is enmeshment and incest is the symptom. I love all of you and I am grateful to have a place to talk about this.