Any other subs experience this?

My orgasms have been completely ruined by this kink. I can’t really have proper sex anymore, I usually cum before i get hard bc I’m too excited. I never used to have this issue.

Anyway the other day at work i had my first unintentional hands free orgasm. I was in the middle of a hot sending session and i ruined my pants. It was really fucking horrifying. Now I’m scared to do any playing in public at all.