AIO for being upset with my friends over them never giving me notice or remembering when I work so I can come to plans?

So, I’m 24F and my friends are all 24F-25F. Also, yes I know this is such “first world” problems but it’s still bothering me.

I recently went back to working in a restaurant as a server/bartender in June. My work schedule has been very consistent on Friday nights, I’ve been working until 11:30 (sometimes 12am if it’s very busy) every Friday night since July. I’ve told my friends this multiple times and I’ve told them that I normally don’t close on Saturday nights so those work much better for me when it comes to going out to the bar or the club.

Today marked the 6th time (and 6th Friday night) that they’ve asked me day of if I’m available to go out to the bars tonight just an hour or two before my shift started and for the 6th time, I’ve had to explain to them that I close on Friday nights and need at least a morning of warning (ideally at least a one day notice) to be able to come out to the bars after my shift is finished.

It’s starting to really bother me and honestly upset me that this keeps happening. I’ve tried making plans on other days but everybody just keeps saying they’re busy or whatever other excuse they have. I really want to go out to the bars with them and they know that, I’ve told them this multiple times but nothing ever changes.

It just feels so inconsiderate and it’s getting to the point where I’m starting to get upset and some resentment is starting to build up, they don’t even care to give me enough notice or change it to a Saturday night so that I can come too.

It feels like I’m being pushed out of the friend group or that I’ve become a second thought. My other friend has a theory that it’s because I no longer “fit in” with their life paths, they’re all in very serious relationships and all of their boyfriends are friends. I don’t have a boyfriend and I’ve just gotten back from a backpacking trip that lasted from January 2026-June 2026 and the one before that from April 2025-September 2025. I’ve made a very conscious effort to not talk much about my travels, they don’t really ask about them so I make sure to not talk about them. I made sure to still speak to them all multiple times a week while I was away to ensure that our friendships didn’t change much and for them to know that I still care/want to talk to them.