Friend group drama

Friend group drama

About a year ago, this whole situation started, so I’ll try to explain it simply. I’m 18M and part of two friend groups: Friend Group A and (formerly) Friend Group B.

Friend Group A is made up of guys I’ve known since 8th grade: S (18M), J (17M), and I (18M).

Friend Group B had J (from Group A), K (18F), G (F), and Ic (18M). Everyone in both groups knows each other.

Friend Group B formed after J’s birthday party in 2024. I already knew K and G from 8th grade, so we didn’t need introductions. Me and K have always had a kind of “frenemy” relationship. Around them, I sometimes acted more aggressive in a joking way. They always either laughed or never said anything about the way I acted, they even told me that in a way, I was a new and intriguing value to their group. so I persisted with me eventually toning it down. However, During our last hangout in January 2025, J privately told me that K was going through some housing situation and that I should tone it down. However during our hangout, K for whatever reason kept antagonizing me to the point that I retaliated and called K a “bitch ass nigga” (I am mixed) I didn’t think she’d take it seriously, but later that night, my phone began blowing up. K and G both called me out, with G being especially harsh, even though I hadn’t said anything to her directly. I tried to plead my case that I was simply joking back but told them I would still tone it down.

After that, they started hanging out without me. At first, I assumed they just needed space, but it kept happening repeatedly. Eventually, I confronted J about it. We’re close, but he’s also K’s childhood friend, so It made me feel some type of way when I kept seeing that.

He confirmed what I suspected and said he’d try to talk to them. but he recognized that the way they went about it was wrong and he apologized to me if I felt any type of way about this, which I still do. Meanwhile, S and I (from Group A), who are also friends with K and G, suggested I apologize. I did, but K barely responded and we havent talked about the group since besides the occasional ig reel send.

Now, after more time has passed, None of them, except J is talking to me. I’m starting to lose hope that things will go back to normal. Recently, I saw J post a story of them together again. I thought it was another hangout, but when I asked him, he said it was just a quick gas station trip and that I was overreacting. I told him that if they hadn’t been hanging out without me all because I said something she didn’t like, and then making me feel like shit about it afterwards, I wouldn’t feel this paranoid about them getting together like that. He said that choosing who is included in the group or not is out of his power and that if he could’ve, he would’ve continued including me, meaning he’ll probably keep letting this happen, and I dont really talk to Ic that much, and besides he’ll probably just say the same thing.

At this point, I feel stuck and don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to just keep trying to fix things calmly and see if I can reconnect with them, but at the same time, I feel like Ive expelled enough energy on them and because they just dropped me so easily, I feel like it would just be a waste of time and should instead just cut, K, G, and Ic off and act like I never knew them, and If i see them again, to just act cold and distant to them. So, what should I do?

(Edit: I have posted this before but it got taken down for unknown reasons.)